On paper your life looks great

Veronica Strachan

You have a great job, family, friends, home, but—and here it comes… you are not happy, not content—not even close.

You often have to juggle inspiration and engagement with frustration and apathy.

You really want to change, but you get overwhelmed, busy and distracted by someone else’s agenda.

You’re lost and disconnected from your own dreams and desires, stuck in the loop of doing the same things over and over again with very little joy, and the feeling that this is as good as it gets.

I know that feeling, and I have news for you…

If you’ve found your way here, then you are ready to step up, to step into life, a conscious, joyful life, fully engaged.

You are not alone in your desire to do life better.

You want to build your confidence to show up in the world, to be taken seriously.

You want to be seen, to be heard, and to leave the world a better, brighter place for having you shine your light in it.

I  can help.

I know you have what it takes to be the person you want to be.

I know you have all the skills and experience to build the life and career of your dreams.

I help women who are disconnected, and even drowning, to reconnect to a conscious life and to step out of the ocean onto higher ground.

I know how, because I have those feelings too.

I’ve been where you are—and some days I’m back there.

So together we’ll find the signposts that point you in the right direction, and learn how to tap into the toolbox of skills and experience you’ve been gathering for years.

What was it like for me?

I had it all on paper too. Great job, great family, great friends, great life.

But I had a secret; a growing emptiness that had become a physical pain in my heart. I had put away feeling deeply—feeling anything really—when I lost my young daughter Jacqueline Bree in 1995. I was really only living a half life.

In the early years it was all I could do to keep breathing when I felt like I was drowning in an unending ocean of grief. My way of coping was to put my grief away behind a big, thick wall and get busy. I got busy being successful at my job. I ticked all the boxes I was supposed to, worked hard and paid my dues.

But over the years this empty feeling of discontent and disconnection kept growing. I felt frustrated and selfish saying my life wasn’t working because surely what I had should have been enough. I should have been happy and content.

I realised that I needed to take some serious steps if I was ever going to find the feeling, healing and reconnection I wanted. And so began my quest to become whole again. I needed to find all the parts of me I had lost, and to find what it meant to have not just a good life; but to find what it meant to live vibrantly and fully, and to give myself and my family the greatest joy and quality of life I could. I wanted to dream again, and to believe I could have those dreams come true.

I  shared my discontent with two good friends; we compared notes and I realised I was not alone—we were all members of the Discontented Women’s Club!  Our secrets were different but our need to get out of the ocean was the same.

I found lots of signposts – and some of them eventually pointed me in the right direction!

With the help of books, tools, life-changing practices, teachers, coaches and mentors I got unstuck and headed in the right direction. I got more conscious of who I was now, and I got curious to see who I wanted to be. The final step was courage, digging deep to take a step towards that woman, that conscious, joyful, remarkable life.

I haven’t looked back since, except to laugh at myself for procrastinating and waiting so long to follow my dreams, to find the direction and to start doing it: living my remarkable life. A life worthy of my attention.

Isn’t your life worthy of your attention too?

What does a conscious, joyful life look like for you?

What will it take for you to live your life as the remarkable person you know you can be?

I’m not perfect, and my life is not all smooth sailing, but I am clear on the things that are important to me, who I want to be and what I want to do.  I am, at this moment, the perfect sum of all the choices and experience that have brought me to this point.

Living with Jacqui Bree’s passing, is the compass that keeps me on track. I want to be the best I can be for myself, my family and others who love me, not to mention those I am yet to meet.

I want this sense of purpose and satisfaction for you too.

So my purpose is to help you find your way to be the best you can be.

I see so many people living shadows of their full potential in both their personal and professional lives. You have a choice—a choice to live a half-life or to live a remarkable life.  A choice to create a life that expresses the very best of who you are.

Your life belongs to you! Everything you think, feel, do and believe matters. Your dreams matter and you can bring them to life.

I achieved my dream of writing a book, Breathing While Drowning: One Woman’s Quest for Wholeness. It’s my heroine’s journey through despair, trials and tribulations, my quest to heal and return to fully living. It’s full of the signposts that I found along the way, the one’s that helped me out of the ocean and onto the shore.

Some of these signposts may be the ones you are looking for.

As I headed confidently towards my dreams, my mission became clearer and clearer to me.

To inspire, instruct and involve people in how to live and lead their own conscious, joyful, remarkable life.

My personal discoveries empower my working passion for enabling individuals and teams to grow and to make their own difference through my coaching, change and facilitation work.

True DialogueI take the whole of me, fabulous, flawed and fully living into workplaces at True Dialogue where I work in health, aged and community care with people and teams who are ready, willing and able to make their difference. I love to watch the spark ignite in people when they realise they can choose differently. Through my Practical Leadership Program (of course it has to be practical) I help people plan and take radical action to do whatever they want to do, and to be whoever they want to be.

Women Who CareWorking in health, aged and community care is tough, unrelenting and not for the faint-hearted.

I founded Women Who Care with Dr Cathy Balding to inspire, instruct and involve women leaders in health, aged and community care — and to raise money for Very Special Kids through my family’s philanthropic fund with the Australian Communities Foundation. We run regular events designed for you to connect with people who are working to make a difference in health, aged and community services.

I’m committed to helping women in the caring professions achieve their potential, and at the same time helping Very Special Kids achieve theirs.

I feel incredibly grateful to have found my purpose.

And for you, right now?

No matter who you are or where you are in your life quest, you can go confidently in the direction of your dreams and live the life you’ve imagined. Trust your intuition; you know exactly what you need. Stop searching outside for who you are, look inside and take the most dangerous adventure: the journey to you.

Maybe you just need someone to show you where the signposts are.

My wish for you is to have a remarkable life; a life worthy of attention, your attention.

May I invite you to gift yourself an easy first step?

Read about my signposts and how I found my way home in Breathing While Drowning: One Woman’s Quest for Wholeness. Take time to complete the accompanying workbook and begin to map your new future.

If I can find my way back, so can you.